Well, it turns out that those gossips aren’t true. Not merely that, but they have annoyed Jen so much that she penned an open letter- published in the Huffington Post– to let the world know just how much journalists are grinding her gears. You can’t blame her actually. Here’s what she had to say.
“Let me start by saying that addressing rumor is something I have never done. I don’t like to give energy to the business of lies, but I wanted to participate in a larger conversation that has already begun and needs to continue. Since I’m not on social media, I decided to set my supposes here in writing.”
“For the record, I am not pregnant. What I am is fed up . I’m fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of “journalism, ” the “First Amendment” and “celebrity news.”
“The objectification and scrutiny we set women through is absurd and disturbing. The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we insure and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty. Sometimes culture standards just need a different perspective so we can see them for what they actually are- a collective acceptance … a subconscious agreement. We are in charge of our agreement. Little girls everywhere are absorbing our agreement, passive or otherwise. And it begins early. The message that girls are not fairly unless they’re unbelievably thin, that they’re not worthy of our attention unless they look like a supermodel or an actress on the encompas of a magazine is something we’re all willingly buying into. This conditioning is something daughters then carry into womanhood. We use celebrity “news” to perpetuate this dehumanizing opinion of females, focused solely on one’s physical appearance, which tabloids turn into a sporting event of speculation. Is she pregnant? Is she eating too much? Has she let herself go? Is her wedding on the rocks because the camera detects some physical “imperfection” ?
“This past month in particular has illuminated for me how much we define a woman’s value based on her marital and maternal status. The sheer sum of resources being spent right now by press trying to simply uncover whether or not I am pregnant( for the bajillionth time … but who’s counting) points to the perpetuation of this notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful, or unhappy if they’re not married with children. In this last boring news cycle about my own personal life there have been mass shootings, wildfires, major decisions by the Supreme court, an upcoming election, and any number of more newsworthy a matter that “journalists” could dedicate their resources towards.”
“Here’s where I come out on this topic: we are complete with or without a mate, with or without small children. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s build that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as instances. Let’s build that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don’t need to be married or moms to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.”
“I have grown tired of being part of this narrative. Yes, I may become a mother some day, and since I’m laying it all out there, if I ever do, I will be the first to let you know. But I’m not in pursuit of motherhood because I feel incomplete in some way, as our celebrity news culture would lead us all to believe. I resent being made to feel “less than” because my body is changing and/ or I had a burger for lunch and was photographed from a weird slant and therefore deemed one of two things: “pregnant” or “fat.” Not to mention the painful awkwardness that comes with being congratulated by friends, coworkers and strangers alike on one’s fictional pregnancy( often a dozen hours in a single day ). ”
“From years of experience, I’ve learned tabloid practises, however dangerous, will not change, at the least not any time soon. What can change is our awareness and reaction to the toxic messages interred within these apparently harmless narratives served up as truth and shaping our the notions of who we are. We get to decide how much we buy into what’s being served up, and maybe some day the tabloids will be forced to see the world through a different, more humanized lens because consumers have just stopped buying the bullshit.”
Very well told! Maybe now they will get by her back? Likely not.